Even though Phoebe is now one year old, I still remember her birth (fondly) like it was yesterday. I had an amazing experience at Phobe’s birth watching her come out, it is something that I will never forget.
It is always good to hear what worked for others who have gone before you. So I would have to say that staying calm is the single most helpful thing that you can do during birth whether it goes to plan or not. If you are calm you are sure to enjoy this experience all the more.I found that believeing in my bodies ability to birth my baby worked for me, going in with that belief and staying focused on being relaxed to let my body do its thing.
Saying that you will be calm and actually being calm at the time are two different things, that’s why having a strong birthing partner is essential. I can’t stress enough to the partners out there how invaluable your support is. Each person may define support differently but in my case it was to remind me how great I was doing, remind me to keep breathing and to stay focused on the outcome- a beautiful baby on their way.
Thank you Penny! I’m done having babies now but if I where to have a third I”d definitely be practicing calmbirth® again.
A few things where not ideal with this pregnancy such as developing gestational diabeties and having to be induced, but in the end the birth went perfectly well. We arrived at the hospital early for our induction and not much happed all day just the usual monitoring, but at about 4 pm I started to feel a little impatient. My contractions where becoming a little uncomfortable so I walked around the birthing suit for a while. Things all happened very quickly from there though and pretty soon the contraction where on coming one on top of the other. Things got pretty crazy very quickly but I felt Okay! I was in control and I believe that this was due to the preparation that I had and listening to my calmbirth® CD’s. (I wish that I had this preparation for my other two births.
calmbirth® was definitely a help preparing me for birth during the “Fast and Furious” birth and even now after the big event. I have learn’t some skills that are extremely useful to me in every day life. Thank you Thank you Thank you. I can’t recommend it enough.
In reference to calmbirth®, I feel that the course helped me a great deal. For me the biggest change happened well before labour and birth. Your course and the subsequent practice took away all of my fear. Before doing the calmbirth® course I was an extremely anxious and fearful person I was fearful of the pain and also of loosing control, but by the time the day arrived I was really excited and not afraid at all!
During the early phase of labour I found the breathing really helpful. Once I got into hospital I don’t think that I used the breathing techniques as much as I could have.I just got through the contractions the best I could.
However, I did use a lot of the other knowledge that I gained from your course, which I think really helped. I stayed upright the entire labour, walked a lot and I used the hot shower and some back massage as pain relief.
Mike was a wonderful birth partner, encouraging and supportive. He also empowered me by just “letting me do my thing”. Your course helped him feel like an active participant in the birth of his little girl. Even though he is quick to say that I did all the work I couldn’t have done it without him.
I was making some rolled oats for breakfast one morning (20th June) and was getting ready for my pregnancy yoga class, having a giggle with Brett and well I thought that I had bladder problems! Any how I soon realized that my waters had released.
We went to the private hospital but where transferred to the John Hunter after the medication to stop my contractions didn’t work. Through out the whole time Brett and I where determined that no matter what our precious little bundle would be brought into this world in a calm manner. I had been practising religiously my visualisations and breathing techniques.
Brett and I had discussed our birth preferences and I had drafted this although it never got printed! What worked? The visualisation, breathing and counting our in and out breaths. Following the calmbirth® class Brett and I felt empowered to trust our instincts. We knew what each stage of the birthing process was and we understood how to channel the energy to the right spot.(Rather than to the extrematies) during the waves.
The one thing that I am most grateful for was my husband. The medical staff kept encouraging me to have morphine and we knew that this would pass over to the placenta and could possible affect our babies breathing ( who was already going to have some problems because of coming so early any way.) My darling husband, without me knowing or saying anything, followed the midwife out of the room and told her that we knew that we could ask for pain relief and would appreciate if it was not encouraged as we where going to use other techniques to birth our baby.
I ended up giving birth to Henry with the assistance of forceps due to his heart rate slowing down.He weighed a healthy 1780 grams at 32 weeks gestation.Harry was in the intensie care unit for one week and then we had him transferred to the private hospital. And we where in the private hospital for a further three weeks.He is now home and is doing so well.
Penny I am so glad that we did your calmbirth® class. During the birth process I visualized the beach and the ships at sea along the Merewether and Bar beach area. Every time I walk along the path in this area I am reminded of our beautiful birth that Brett and Harry and I enjoyed. Its funny the one of the first things I did when we all came home was to take Harry for a walk along this path and I stopped at one special point where I told Henry that mummy and daddy visualized this spot when he was born. I have recommended you class to all of my pregnant friends- be prepared to be inundated!
Just a quick note to say hi and let you know that we ended up having a caesarian birth because Flyn was in a transverse lie. In short the birth was an amazing and beautiful experience for all of us. We where so grateful that we had just a little bit of time (about a day) to prepare ourselves for the fact that we would be having a Caesar – it enabled both Barry and I to support each other through the last minute change of plans. I have a real fear of anaesthetic (of all types) due to an incident that resulted in the death of my mother in 1994. However, I was able to use my calmbirth® tools to help me through that and was also able to talk to the anaesthetic staff about my concerns which helped even more.
In theatre the whole procedure went beautifully. Barry and I where both relaxed and xalm and wonderfully connected. When they held up our son he to seemed calm even though he still cried beautifully on cue! He was certainly not distressed. I had him on my chest for all of that important skin to skin contact within minutes of him being born and it was truly amazing.
He is breastfeeding well and we are slowly but surely getting the hang of life as a little family!
So whist our birth plan certainly changed at the last minute, I truly believe that the tools we learned during our calmbirth® workshop assisted us greatly. We where able to remain flexible and relaxed and ultimately where able to achieve a beautiful birth for our son which will remain with us forever.
I hope you are well, and we wish you well.
Patricia, Barry and Flyn
Just wanted to let you know that our darling son Nathan was born on 29th Sept at Belmont hospital and it was an amazing birth. We had a couple of false starts before that and on both occasions I started to get quite anxious as the contractionsstarted but then did not progress to far. The second time they lasted on and off for a few hours and by the end I was just exhausted so I went to bed with the calmbirth® CD’s ( I put them on the ipod and I would lie in bed with the ear phones in. The breathing and the visualisations really helped me to relax and calm down.
I was 6 days over and during this time I was starting to get incredibly frustrated and over it all, again the calm birthing helped me through this, calming me down. I went into labour at 1am I had a few contractions in bed but then I just wanted to be upright.So I got up and did the school lunches etc.The whole time I just wanted to rotate my hips. We had to call my sister to come and be with the boys. I had called the midwife at around 2am knowing that my sister would take at least 45 min to arrive. By 2 am things were progressing really quickly and my midwife Kate could sence this so she said that she would pack her home birthing gear as well just in case we didn’t make it to the hospital.
I was a bit worried that we wouldn’t make it to the birth centre in time and the whole time I just kept talking to our baby telling him that we could do this. My sister arrived at aout 2:30 and we then left pretty well straight away for the birth center.
During the trip to Belmont I could feel head pressure and I kept trying to maintain my breathing and to make the trip seam like it was going faster I started to give GPS type directions to our baby. Steve said that I sounded very funny Come on baby hold on we are nearly there, we are just pulling up to the red light and then turn right at the end of this street then we will turn right again and go up a big hill where we will turn into the car park and then we are nearly there”
When we did pull up in the car park at 3am Kate the midwife just pulled up next to us, so she walked up to the birth centre with us. Steve carried the bags and Kate supported me and rubbed my back through each contraction. I had three contractions between the car park and the lft so I ran into the lift before I got another one. Thought that I had done a wee when I got into the birthing room but Kate said that was my waters releasing and Nathan was born 10minutes later. It was amazing!
When we got into the birthing room the bath was running and even though I diddn’t want to get into the bath I asked them to keep the water running as the sound of the water was really soothing. The water ran the whole time (well it was less than 10 minutes) and apparently I said it was just like giving birth under a water fall. Then after the birth we all got into the bath with Nathan which was just beautiful.
Calm birth helped me in a number of ways:
- The weekend gave us a fabulous opportunity to focus on the baby and birth without our other two boys being around. It was great to just take that time out just for us.
- During the course I was able to deal with and understand why I had experienced such a challenging birth with our second son- It was mostly due to my state of mind and knowing this gave me confidence that this would not be repeated because I had calm tools and with them I knew I had a much better approach, in other words I got to dump off baggage and start with a clean slate.
- Calm birthing exercises helped me through the difficult last few weeks of pegnancy, kept me calm and the visualisations really helped me during those frustrating days of wondering if my baby would ever be born.
- Calm birth tools helped me to stay active but calm during a very quick labour. Steve and I had learnt to work as a teamand even though things progressed very quickly I was not scared at any timelike I was before this time I was just excited that things where moving and that I would meet our baby soon.
- Calm birth helped me to connect with our baby and to talk to our baby through out the whole birth process.
- Visualizing the muscles of the uterus and how they wor and visualizing the cervix being pulled up with every contraction helped so much.
- For the first time I also gave birth to the placenta naturally. I had the injection with the first two babies and calmbirth® gave me the confidence to do this.
Thanks so much Penny
My Husband and I attended a calmbirth® workshop with Penny before the birth of our second child. The experience was invaluable for both of us. calmbirth® gave me the tools to adjust, adapt and ease through the labouring process. I felt totally focused and empowered, enabling me to experience the joy of birth. The support and timely encouragement from my husband gave me the strength and reassurance. The birth of our son Thomas was a truly amazing experience.
The birth of our baby girl Page feels like yesterday. I remember it all so clearly. It was the most amazing experience of our lives. There are still times when I cant believe that it is our story, our memory. And I love retelling it as though we are living it again each time that I do.
The techniques we learnt at calmbirth® where amazing. The visualisation skills where the key skills that kept me focused at the peeks of each surge.I could feel her moving down in my pelvis and I was not afraid to help her make her journey beyond.
Before attending the classes I was very afraid about how I would deal with the “pain” that I associated with labour and birthing.After the course we would listen to the relaxation CD’s daily and within no time I would naturally begin to feel relaxed and positive about our up coming birth.
When the surges became more frequent I instinctively used the skills I had learnt at calmbirth® and within one hour of arriving at the birth centre I was in the bath entering second stage.It was at this moment that I remembered the video we saw at the sessions of a lady in a large water tank breathing her baby down with the surges. I closed my eyes and started to do the same thing. I could hear my midwife giving soft words of encouragement and within two surges… there she was… I stood up and my baby girl swam up to meet us! It was the most amazing sensation. I could not believe that she was out. Here she was…everything we could ever dreamed of and so much much more…
I just wanted to let you know that we gave birth to our beautiful baby boy on July 13th. I was 40 weeks and 6 days and I went for a scan to check the fluid around the baby and that was all it took to send me into labour! My waters released at 11:30pm and I went straight into labour.I laboured comfortably at home through the night resting and taking it easy using my nreathing techniques. Then I decided that I would like to head to the hospital at around 7 am I walked into the birth centre at Belmont to find a lovely big bath full of water where I immersed myself feeling confident that things were going fabulously. My midwife said that she thought that the baby was not far away and by 5:50am I had given birth to our perfect little man.
I honestly found the calmbirth® techniques extremely helpful when I was at home. I found it a lot more difficult to stay focused once I got to the birth centre, but I used the breathing again with crowning and delivering Lewis and hey presto- no stitches!
Thanks so much for your support and your commitment to helping make birth a much more natural and less frightening experince. I have no hesitation in recommending calmbirth® to every pregnant person that I know!. It should be mandatory pre natal education.
Just wanted to let you know that all of our hard work payed off! (calmbirth®, acupuncture, massage doula etc) ..I am so happy and pleased with our birth as it has helped settle my birth trauma from Harry’s birth. It helped me understand also that even without the trauma in birth it is still HUGLEY hard hard work…
I think that all our preparation helped me trust that my body could manage on its own and all I needed to do was switch off my head/thoughts/fears/anxiety and get on with the physical job of giving birth.
Thanks for all your help.